In defense of Irish Red-Headed Men.

For years I have struggled with self image. I have already wrote a blog about wanting to wear someone elses’ skin. My understanding of wanting to be someone else, and actively try to be, is very real. As I assume is the same with a lot of people out there. When I found out that…

Movies and Books: Focusing on the future.

I’ve always watched movies and I have always seen myself in them at some capacity. Typically based on where I feel I am at emotionally at that particular point in time. When watching movies as a kid I always pictured being the child in the film. It was the only way that I was able to relate to…

Breakdowns and ways you can get through them.

When you are in turmoil and the soil doesn’t seem like it will ever thaw, the summer seems like it’s destined to run away from you for eternity, and there just doesn’t seem to be any point in trying to move forward I suggest a understanding and trying few things before totally giving up,sleeping on…

A letter to a lover. Wherever she may be.

Dear Love, At the time of me writing this I don’t know when or where we met, but I am absolutely grateful to have you in my life right now. You are one of the most intelligent and beautiful woman I have ever met in my life. I know this right now because I am…

On assimilation: How I avoided myself for 10 years.

It’s the prying, pushing, and forceful way I have always tried to get what I want from the people I love. I make it known that there is nothing more in the world that I want. Their personalities. Their lifestyle. Their individuality. I have always wanted to be someone else besides myself.   It started when I…

50 Ways To Lose Your Lover

Don’t call her beautiful everyday Leave her waiting for you to grow up and be a man Ignore her cries for simple attention Turn down the opportunity to eat dinner with her Forget her birthday Forget your own anniversary Make your meals for one and don’t share Buy yourself a cup of coffee and don’t…

Best friends: The different kinds that we have.

There are many different types of best friends you accumulate through the years. We all associate a friend with a certain characteristic or trait. Each one distinct from the other. The intelligent friend who gives us the no BS intelligent advice we sometimes really need.  The other friend who will join you on aimless adventures…

Learning ‘The Benefit Of The Doubt’

“I don’t know for a fact he slept with her. But my guess is that he did. And if he didn’t, he will. And if it’s not her, it will be, or has been, someone like her. The Chelseas of the world are drawn to him.” This quote comes from ‘This Is Where I Leave…

Loneliness and emptiness. Where does one end and the other begin?

It comes through like the storm that it most certainly was and leaves like a whisper. There’s no telling when it will be back. We know it will in time though. For now there is an overwhelming sense of relief and a sharp sense of nothing. Emptiness. This has happened on many occasions, and can happen even…

New Years: The morning after is never as fun as the night of.

I smell like old cigarettes, wearing someone else’s clothes, wrapped up in two Mexican blankets, and I can hear the pattering steps coming from the waking couple in the room next to me. It’s New Years morning and I am not sure if I am in a movie about a 60’s rock and roll group, or…